What's it like to live with a chef?

Long hours, early starts: three couples reveal how they juggle the demands of the job with domestic life – and who does the cooking at home

James “Jocky” Petrie, group executive development chef for the Gordon Ramsay Group, lives with his wife, musician Úna Palliser,near St Albans. They have two daughters: one four-year-old and one a few months old. Petrie has appeared on MasterChef, Heston’s Fantastical Food and Hell’s Kitchen. Úna has worked with Shakira, the Killers, Mobyand Gnarls Barkley.

I was complaining that you were full of empty promises just when you were about to propose … I thought I’d ruined it

The thing that gets me is how many times your work life gets confused with what we really need to do: have a dinner date

I try to be supportive, but I suppose I have a feeling that life doesn’t stop because a restaurant is being opened